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The emergence of the internet has given people the opportunity to become as visible as they want to be. Visibility means people can spill their guts and reveal themselves in so many new ways. We can post our opinions on blogs, update our ‘status’ as often as we want on Facebook, Tweet about things we like or dislike and put up our photo’s for people to rate. Why do we do this? And is it good or bad?
I would say that this desire to be seen online mimics our need to be seen offline. Why do most human beings want to become celebrities? It’s simple, for love and for power. All of us need and want love and many of us want power (to varying degrees). Take for example sites like hotornot.com and soyouthinkyourecool.com which allow you to put up your picture and something about yourself for others to rate. This way strangers can weigh in on whether you’re pretty or cool, but why do we care what strangers say? They don’t know us or impact our lives in any way. Perhaps that’s the key. Since they don’t know us they’re not like our family or friends who have a biased opinion. However while these ratings may be more truthful, they’re totally superficial. This is where the fine line between wanting love and vanity emerges. Seeking social approval from friends and colleagues is natural and healthy (to a certain degree). Seeking approval from strangers over the internet is like a call for help.
In fact in our quest for social approval what seems worse than a good or bad rating, is no rating at all. Having your blog, profile or photos ignored is like being banished into the desert or sitting by yourself in the corner of the classroom. The instances where it’s worse to be poorly rated than ignored is in those unfortunate cases where bullying and ostracism have occurred. In general however we want to maximize the number of comments, ratings and friends we have on Facebook (even if we barely know these ‘friends’). Building our ratings and friends simply to have them is a façade that shows we are important and loved. This again is a call for help.
Of course there are legitimate benefits to social media. The ability to connect with people, share ideas, promote our businesses and so on via social media is great. What is not so great is our society’s obsession with rating and being rated. The internet is a powerful tool and many people in the world are now on it. Therefore we should expect every corner of human thought and behavior to manifest itself there. However we should take care to spend our time and direct our thoughts to positive ideals and not worry about how we’re viewed by people we will never meet.
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I don’t know about you, but I am the type of person that likes to get things quickly and not spend a lot of time debating or arguing. Case in point, whenever I go shopping I tend to buy things quickly with the goal of getting out of the store as soon as possible. This usually results in my forgetting to purchase a few items or my buying something which is overpriced or doesn’t fit right.
circumstance to allows these skills to come to fruition. Great leaders require catalysts to propel them to greatness. Think of any great leader like Churchill, Lincoln, Napoleon or Gandhi and what comes to mind is always the enormous struggles they faced. However, this is not to say that great leaders don’t learn how to lead through experience. They have the seeds of leadership within them, but they require life experience to develop those skills.
Ever feel like you have been at work all day and haven’t gotten anything done? And have you wondered where all your time went? And why you have so little to show for at the end of the day? I know the feeling very well since this is something I struggle with constantly. Since I work on many self-directed projects and typically work out of my home, out of necessity, I have had to find ways to become more productive.
the name is a bit ridiculous, the principle is very useful and has helped me many times when I felt overwhelmed. Back in the 1950’s a psychologist from Harvard named George Miller published an article arguing that the human mind has a short term memory capacity of approximately 7 items. Beyond 7 items it becomes much harder for people to absorb and memorize information. This is why phone numbers are only 7 digits long. This is also why we need to break down large projects into smaller pieces.















